Today is the most depressing day of the year, calculations prove it, the day we admit defeat and revel in self-loathing for falling off the News Years resolution wagon, the day our motivation levels are at an all-time low. They call it Blue Monday.
Blue Monday is a story, made up by Sky Travel as part of a publicity and marketing campaign. Today is NOT the most depressing day of the year. The idea that such a day could even exist is ludicrous.
That’s the good news.
So why are you still feeling blue? If you’ve given up on your New Year’s resolutions it’s not because you’re a failure, or you’re not strong enough, nor are you lacking in willpower or lacking in any way shape or form for that matter. You’ve stopped doing what you said you would do because what you said you would do is not really what you wanted to do. More specifically, you didn’t really want to make that particular resolution right now. Not really. Maybe a bit, maybe even a lot. But crucially, you didn’t want it enough.
And that’s perfectly OK.
That’s not a reason to beat yourself up even more. You simply need to be willing to take full responsibility – free of all judgement – for your choices and the consequences of those choices if you’re to see the truth in what I’ve just said. And to move beyond that point, to be empowered, get clear on what it is you really want and why you want it.
Dig a little deeper.
And if you find the word “should” in your thoughts, pay attention – eg. I really should stop smoking – According to whom? The word ‘should’ indicates somebody else’s story that you’ve picked up as your own. Drop it.
So, to help you kick-start the process of excavating your own mind I invite you to ask yourself the question, “What am I not willing to do to achieve the outcome I want?”
That might sound like a strange question, but if you’re willing to hear the answer you might surprise yourself.
Again, if there’s something you intend to do, once you want it enough, you’ll take the necessary action. You’ll find yourself living from an empowered stance, you’ll know what to do and when to do it.
If this resonates with you and you have your own story to share, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below. 🙂
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I coach high achievers in the performing arts and music industries, together with entrepreneurs and leaders in corporate. I'm drawn to work with pioneers and innovators. "The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes" Marcel Proust
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